So your wife left you, and you just don’t know what to do. You want her back, you just don’t know where to start to make that happen. While no tip or set of tips can guarantee you’ll get her back, these tips have a pretty good track record.
First, be honest with yourself. Saying to yourself “I want my wife back,” as long as you are being honest, is a good sign. If you truly want her back, and you want to make it work, you’ll own this and do what you have to do.
So do some soul searching and make sure you are being honest here. If you can’t tell yourself the truth, you will be insincere to her and she will see through that. It may solve your problem in the short term, but in time you’ll be right back here again.
Second, try to figure out why she may have left. More soul searching will probably be in order here. Women typically leave because they feel unappreciated. Women need to feel that what they do matters (well, actually, who doesn’t?) and when they feel unappreciated they’ll look elsewhere for appreciation. This doesn’t necessarily mean they will cheat, but they’ll check out of the relationship.
So the question is, do you appreciate her? Do you really? And do you show it? In what ways have you taken her for granted lately? Here is where you’ll begin to understand. And remember, what is most important is that she feels this way, so even if you don’t understand exactly why, try to empathize. If you truly want your wife back, you’ll figure this one out.
And it is important here, too, not to make any assumptions. When you have the chance, you should ask her why. Why she left, what she sees as the problem, where she thinks that things went wrong. And most importantly, BE INTERESTED. Don’t pretend, don’t ask because I said so, but be truly interested and LISTEN to the answer. You may be surprised.
The third tip is to give her some space. You need some time to do your own thinking, specifically related to the first two tips. She needs time to think and cool down too. Let her have the time she needs.
If after going through the first two steps, you realize you’ve done something wrong, you can contact her to apologize. Be sure it is heartfelt and sincere, not a mumbled “I’m sorry” with nothing behind it. Tell her why you’re sorry, and about what. Be specific.
Wether you apologize or not, the next thing is to give her the control and let her contact you in her own time. She will initiate contact at some point, probably with some pretext, but you can then use this opportunity to try to talk. Don’t force a conversation, and don’t argue, especially with her feelings. Feelings are not right or wrong, they just are, and you can’t tell someone else what to feel.
If you follow these three tips, saying I want my wife back will be a thing of the past for you. And the better you follow these tips, the less likely you will ever have to say it again.
